Living on Purpose is a Choice

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Do you remember the first time you ever felt powerful and invincible? I do. And every time since then has only expounded and amplified on that state of mind and contentment. It’s a surreal belief of confidence and certainty. For me the only comparison I guess would be falling in love. There’s this aura of perfection and love that surrounds the other person while simultaneously sending waves of absolute wonderment and passion to the outside world as well. Every moment is unlimited potential, because you’re amazed that the next minute and the next hour and the next day, could be any more perfect and crystalline.

Each one of us has the same ability to connect to that state of mind of absolute certainty and attain our dreams. Because you know that you know what you know and that’s all that matters. That belief creates opportunities that arise for you to act on which then produces positive effects which justify your original belief that you can attain what it is that you want. As the cycle continues it naturally creates momentum and the journey strengthens. It’s your beliefs that lead you to do what you did the day before that ultimately leads you to a happier today and successful tomorrows.

I began pondering about this today and it just seems so simple. For me, when I got started, I just knew it was going to work, because it ‘had to’. No doubt about it. When I began my cleaning business, I was a single parent of two boys. I had zero. Nothing. No savings and no credit cards and no loans to fall back on. I also didn’t have any time to waste. What I did have were the cutest little boys that I loved more than anything. I made it happen because of the beliefs that worked for me and I didn’t stop at no and I didn’t take anything personal either. So, like this picture above, looking inside the tube, you gotta stay focused because, really, it’s a given. It’s a must. It’s an absolute certainty that you’ll end up on the other side looking back and know that you killed it and had a blast doing it too.

Everyone has their own reasons, their own dreams and their own path. The real ticket is to remember how powerful our beliefs are and to believe in your dreams with absolute clarity and conviction. The rest will all fall into place.

Mahalo a nui loa and e malama pono.

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Successful Networking Tips

Developing real relationships is the key to success. It’s not about narcissism and its not about the 47,000 followers or 11,275 fans that social media can superficially provide. I believe that real success is about giving and being authentic. It’s more about being familial, appreciating humilty and developing creatively, both professionally and personally. Seth Godins’ post, Welcome to Island Marketing, graciously states ‘If you run a business on a small island, every interaction matters and every customer is precious’.

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The Aloha spirit is real simple. You give and you give… and you give from here (the heart) until you have nothing else to give. – Rell Sunn

The Endurance of a Business Owner

 

There are multiple reasons, beliefs and personal convictions that act as anchors during the entrepreneurs’ hardest challenges and decisions in their professional career. Imagine the gift of being free and liberated to do as you wish in your own cleaning business. That same business that enriches your life personally and financially, allows you to offer great service to your customers and solid employment and growth to your staff. That same freedom-giving train can potentially fall off its tracks if it’s not properly cared and maintained for. The possibility of everything crashing all around is the silent dirty little secret that a lot of business owners fear.

 

Here are several practical guide-posts that have been useful for many successful entrepreneurs. Business owners that strived to live out their dreams and create their own destiny and ultimately defy the odds of many to live the life of a few.

 

Encouragement:

Possessing a deep knowledge of self awareness, confidence and self-esteem allows one the ability to salve their own wounds and push on when things seem unclear or negative.

 

 

Focus:

To behold great passion is the torch of all creative souls. Having clarity throughout ones life, especially in business is magical. Using that drive and ambition is an electrifying force that acts as their true north.

 

 

Strategy:

This should be referred to as your business’ vehicle. The catapult is what will bring your goals into better viewing and eventually materialize. Choose the medium that best suits your business, organization and team.

 

 

Planning:

I love the mantra or the slogan; be, do and act. That’s the epitome of a plan, it’s quintessential. From being, one can create the dream or desired outcome. From the doing, one learns different measures of success and builds on the experience. And finally, from acting, success shines through more and more and cause and effect is in full force. The degree of congruency is refined and sharpened for accuracy, repetition and feedback.

 

 

Gratitude:

The most generous response to give someone is to say mahalo, thank you. Embodying gratitude is an appraisal of yourself being exactly where you need to be at the right time, at the right place and with the right people. Being grateful with what you have in your life is like a stepping stone to feeling happy, open-mined, non-judgmental and easy going. That is when the best business opportunities seem to manifest which naturally perpetuates more feelings of gratitude. Thus, another angle to the law of attraction.

 

Detachment:

Peace of mind and clarity are the main benefits of living with detachment. To let go does not mean to be irresponsible, but only to let go of the controlling mindset of the ego. To assume and superimpose that there can only be one acceptable effect or outcome, completely cuts off any of the other infinite possibilities that one cannot begin to imagine. There are so many nuances that one must keep the ego out of the equation at this juncture.

 

Through all these different layers, or guide posts, developing and building on ones confidence is key. Doing so will enable our natural abilities to expand as we are faced with challenges and simultaneously, also raise our standards and re-group for yet another cycle. So, with all due respect, mahalo a nui loa to everyone and a me ke aloha pau ole!


Overcoming Procrastination

How to Overcome Procrastination Using Self Talk

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit

We’re talking to ourselves all the time inside our minds. Even when you’re not paying attention, these relentless mental debates deeply influence our feelings and, ultimately, our behavior.
The good news is that each time that you become aware of such mental dialogues and notice patterns and turn them into productive statements is an opportunity to overcome many unwelcome feelings and behaviors.
Let’s see how this can help us when it comes to procrastination.

Steps

  1. Recognize the procrastinator’s motto. Consider the following thought, which for sure has crossed our minds many times in the past, in one form or another:“I have to finish this long, important project. It should already be done by now and I need to plow through it.”This small, seemingly innocent thought contains almost every mental block that encourages procrastination. We all use the Procrastinator’s Motto (or variations of it) every once in a while. If you’re a chronic procrastinator, chances are you repeat it to yourself very frequently — daily, perhaps.But what’s so wrong about the Procrastinator’s Motto? In what ways do these words encourage procrastination so much — and what can we do about it? Now let’s consider each part of this statement in turn, replacing each of them with an empowering alternative. In doing that, we’ll turn the original motto on its head and create a productive call to action: a “Producer’s Motto”, if you like.
  2. Remember that you don’t ‘have to’ do anything. ‘I have to’ is every procrastinator’s favorite expression. It’s also the most disempowering. Every time you say to yourself that you have to do something, you imply that you don’t have any choice, that you feel forced or coerced to do the task — that you don’t really want to do it. That perception, of course, elicits a strong feeling of victimhood and resistance towards doing the task. The solution to this problem is to replace ‘I have to’ with the immensely more empowering alternative ‘I choose to’ or ‘I will’. Everything you do is ultimately a choice (yes, even completing tax forms). Using language that expresses choice reminds you of that and brings the feeling of power back.
  3. Focus on starting, rather than finishing. When you focus on finishing something, you direct your attention to a vague, highly idealized future. Visualizing a finished project is motivating for many people, but from the point of view of someone who’s having a hard time starting a task, visualizing a hard-to-grasp future can be overwhelming — even depressing at times. The solution in this case, then, is not to focus on finishing, but on starting. Forget for a minute about the finish line, just concentrate on giving your first step. Bring your focus from the future to what can be done right now. We all know that if you start something a large enough number of times, you’ll eventually finish any task. Starting — all by itself — is usually sufficient to build enough momentum to keep the ball rolling from then on.[1]
  4. Break a long project down into short tasks. Constantly reminding yourself how long and challenging the upcoming undertaking is only adds to the feeling of being overwhelmed, and thus of procrastination. Any undertaking, no matter how daunting, can be broken down into smaller steps. The trick is to, on each step along the way, focus solely on the very next smaller, doable chunk of work. Ignore the big picture for a while and just tackle that next short task. Make it in a way you can easily visualize the outcome coming about very soon. Don’t write a book; write a page. If it still looks intimidating, you may try committing to a time box instead. Of course, keep the big picture in mind, but use it for motivation and direction as needed, and not to frighten yourself before action.
  5. Don’t place too much pressure on yourself. “This project has to impress everyone; I really can’t blow this opportunity.” Placing such high hopes on a project only adds to anxiety and fear of failure. Perfectionism arises and only fuels procrastination even more. The way to overcome this mental block is to simply give yourself permission to be human. Allow yourself to be imperfect just in this next small task. Focus on taking an imperfect step remembering that you can always refine your work later. If you’re a serial perfectionist, go one step further and commit yourself to doing a sloppy job on purpose, at least at first. This can be thought of as a step in working toward perfection, but not trying to be perfect in each step, i.e. write a page or two now, but proofread and correct it some other time.
  6. Stop thinking about the way things ‘should’ be. The expression ‘should’ is usually associated with blame and guilt. When you say you should be doing something (instead of what you’re actually doing), you focus on comparing an ideal reality with your current, “bad” reality. You focus not on what is, but on what could have been. Misused ‘shoulds’ can elicit feelings of failure, depression and regret. The solution is to focus not on how you feel now, but on how good you’ll feel after you begin to take action.
  7. Make some directed action — even the tiniest progress is success — moving towards a goal is the best motivator. The trick is to bring that expected feeling of accomplishment into the present — and know that the real joy of progress is only a small task away. That small step is success. Success is not the end of the process, but it is the actions that cause progress and lead you to your next step.
  8. Make it fun! “I’ve got to work all weekend”. “I am trapped in this laborious project”. Long periods of isolation can bring an enormous feeling of resentment. This feeling generates a strong sense of deprivation and resistance towards the task. The way to overcome this mental block is to not allow long stretches of work to creep into your activities. Schedule frequent breaks that will not take long or take you too far. Plan small rewards along the way. One idea is to work near a break area. Have something to look forward to — not far away and not at the end of a long stretch — but in the very near future. When rewards are small, frequent — and deserved — they work wonders. Truly commit to brief bursts of relaxation and leisure time. In fact, go ahead and make it mandatory. This “reverse-psychology” can by itself bring you to a whole different mindset, both more productive and enjoyable.
  9. Rephrase your internal dialog. Time to check what we’ve accomplished with all the word substitutions. We started with:“I have to finish this long, important project. It should already be done by now and I need to plow through it.”And ended up with:“I choose to start this task with a small, imperfect step. I’ll feel terrific and have plenty of time for fun!” Quite a change, eh? Every time you catch yourself repeating the Procrastinator’s Motto or any of its parts to yourself, stop and rephrase it. Then check how you feel. While it may seem just a matter of word choices at first, when you try this simple way of reframing your thoughts, you’ll see how instantly it changes your attitude towards working on your tasks. Moreover, if you turn it into a habit, you’ll be slowly reprogramming your thoughts, leading to a positive, permanent change in your mindset.

Tips

  • Some other “procrastinator phrases” include:[2]
    • “I just don’t really feel like doing this right now. I will do it later.”
    • Say instead: “Even if I can’t get the whole thing done right now, I can start on this part.”
    • “It’s no big deal if it doesn’t get done.”
    • Say instead: “This is important to ME, so I choose to start now.”
    • “It won’t take me that long.”
    • Say instead: “This may take a long time, but I choose to start now and get part of this done right away.”
    • “It’s not fair.”
    • Say instead: “I choose to do this”
  • Taking on a second-person view can also help. Tell yourself: “You know you’re just putting this off. Take the time right now and get started on this part. You’ll feel better and then you can take a break, or start on another small part.”[3]

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Sources and Citations

  1. This is what Mark Forster calls the “I’ll just get the file out” technique.
  2. http://livingwelltools.com/procrastination.htm
  3. http://www.catalystorganizing.com/articles/Later_Never_Comes.pdf

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Five Characteristics of Great Business Names

Five Characteristics of Great Business Names and Five Popular Trends to Avoid

Written by Susan L. Reid

Deciding on a name is one of the most exciting parts of starting up a business.

The only problem with choosing the name of your business is that so much rides on your business name. It’s a little like choosing a name for your baby. A little like? Make that a lot like! It’s no easier choosing a name for your business than it is choosing a name for your baby.

What’s in a business name? You want it to be everything. Sadly, many business names are nothing. Deciding on a great business name takes time. It takes thought. Moreover, getting it wrong could spell disaster for your business. Getting it right, however, will give customers a reason to hire you, connect you to your niche market, and save you thousands of marketing dollars.

You want your business name to have a big impact on people. This, in turn, will have a big effect on your market. A name that’s too far out may make it difficult to brand. A name that’s too generic and common is easily ignored. Naming your business “Sarah’s Cookies” may make all the sense in the world to you. In most cases, however, your own name means very little to your customers because it says nothing memorable or of distinction.

The key to picking a great name for your business is to make it memorable. Make it distinctive. Don’t make it silly or cute. Your name should reflect your market niche and identity and be able to reach your customer base easily. So don’t mess it up!

Top Five Characteristics of a Great Business Name

1. It’s short.

2. It’s specific and reflects a specialized business: Jiffy Lube, Home Depot.

3. It’s unique. Consider using words that are not in the dictionary: Alkamae, Google, Squidoo.

4. It’s creative. Don’t copy, borrow, or modify existing famous brand names. Got Milk? has its own branding. Leave Victoria’s Secret to Victoria.

5. It’s an easy name to say, spell, and remember. Use proper English construction so that when put in a sentence, it will work: “I just purchased a book from Amazon.”

Five Popular Business Naming Trends to Avoid

1. Don’t abbreviate your business name. Though it may make communication and correspondence easier, acronyms are sterile.

2. Avoid anything that ends in “global”, “enterprise”, or “Inc.” They’re passé.

3. Avoid using your own name. Build your brand on your company, not on your name. That way, if you decide to sell your company one day, it will be easier to sell.

4. Don’t hyphenate your business name. It makes remembering and writing it difficult. Plus, a hyphenated web name is hard to read.

5. Avoid geographical names unless you’re trying to create a strong local affinity. The name “Willow Oak Center for Arts and Learning at Robertson County” works because this is a business targeted specifically for Robertson County in Tennessee.

Once you’ve found your name, consider trademarking it through the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office and registering it through the Secretary of State offices. If your business operates on the Internet, be aware that domain names are not registered through state or local government, so just registering them at domain registration sites is not enough to protect your great business name.

There is more to naming your business than just coming up with something that sounds good, is clever, or you just happen to like. Naming your business is a serious matter. Your business name reflects your image, your brand, and your position in the marketplace. Because your business name is crucial to your overall branding success and marketing efforts, make your business name count.

Make it great!

Copyright ©2007 by Susan L. Reid, DMA

Susan L Reid, DMA, Small Business Start Up Coach, Consultant & Accidental Pren-her™ is the author of Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The Entrepreneurial Woman’s Journey to Business Success. Known for taking the fear out of starting up businesses, Susan provides value, inspiration and direction to entrepreneurial women starting up and launching small businesses.

To get your copy of Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The Entrepreneurial Woman’s Journey to Business Success, go to WME Books or visit www.Alkamae.com. For ideas and start up tips, sign-up for our free e-Zine for entrepreneurial women called LAUNCH YOU! We are blogging at: http://susanreid.typepad.com

 

  • Thanks Susan for sharing your insightful article!
    Jj Soule’

The Journey of Creating Abundance

I believe every woman knows what success and freedom means to them. It could be overseeing your business and ensuring it runs automatically whether you’re there or not; and having quality time with your family and friends. It could be taking vacations and buying a big house or having a great relationship with your spouse or partner.

My ultimate goal was financial security and having the luxury of being around for my boy’s fulltime. As a single parent, I felt a ton of pressure to “get it right”; like the perfect house, new clothes, cool school supplies, fun birthday parties and interesting weekend activities and having a decent car. That doesn’t even include all the necessary things like healthcare and paying for dental visits!

It was really hard financially before I started my own cleaning business. I remember taking the bus to the grocery store and carpooling to work. I missed them all day while they were at daycare with people that didn’t love them and play with them the way I did. It was hard not to see them all day, just so I could make rent and buy food.

That’s when I began to map out how I wanted things to be different. I knew I wanted to have my own cleaning company, I did it before, and I’ve known a lot of people that became quite wealthy. So, I quit my job as soon as I landed my first client from an ad I had put out. A friend at work literally gave me his old wagon when he bought an old Cadillac. I was really determined to do things my way and provide a better life for my children. Within a few weeks, my days were full, from 9 am to 2:30pm. I was happy and on my way to creating financial independence.

So, how does anyone create abundance? For me, it was when I took 100% responsibility for everything in my life, good or bad. I was in control of my thoughts and actions. I desired so much more in life for us, I knew I had to do it alone. I used my current situation as leverage and did everything different from then on. I took small steps and before long, I was a successful business owner with self-confidence and time to be with my children. Sometimes you have to be fierce and push through your fears and obstacles that come your way. Once I took action toward my dreams, opportunities just popped out of the woodwork, that’s when I knew I was on track. Take notice when you experience coincidences at every turn; that’s when you know that you’re doing the right thing.